About a month or so ago I saw a few tweets from @CharyJay about this new product CurlBox. Chary is a veeeery popular natural hair vlogger on YouTube so I decided to look into it. Well honey, was I pleased. CurlBox is an amazing service catered to natural women looking to experience new hair products, without the hassle of having to spend full price on them. Every month for about $20, you’re sent a box of 5-7 sample sizes of products that cater to our hair. I’ve spent more than $20 on ONE product for my hair before so I’m EXTRA geeked about this!! You’re free to cancel at any time, but each month you’re enrolled you’ll be sent well known products, new and unreleased products AND exclusive deals and discounts for your trial pleasure.
I’m newly natural so I have a host of products on my list of wants, but I’m also practical. There’s no way I can afford to spend all that would be required to purchase them all, and stealing is frowned upon. Plus I’m better than that. My mama taught me well lol. CurlBox is literally a Godsend for natural hair wearers such as myself, especially as a newly natural. There’s so much I’m still learning about my hair and the thought of paying full price on something to find out it’s crap on my head is nothing short of daunting. With my CurlBox subscription, I have the ability to try numerous products for the cost of one, they’re sent to me so I don’t have to scour the internet nor my beauty supply looking for it, AND again can I say you can’t beat the price! This is all win! I can’t say enough times how excited I really am for this first box to ship!! I’ve spoken to the wonderful person(s) behind @CurlBox and I can tell you they aren’t holding back on this first box! It’s going to be INSANE. As one of the lucky naturals who subscribed before the subscriptions were sold out (WOOT! WOOT!), I think it’s honestly going to be an awesome Valentine’s Day present to myself from myself. If I end up planning anything special with boo thang, I know my hair will be riiiiight lol
I wasn’t quite sure who I wanted to start this series out with, as I have so many I actually want to share with you guys already. I figured I’d run with what I was ACTUALLY listening to at the moment. Apropos, no?
So I recently discovered Spotify. Tardy to the party, I know. Your judgment aside, I love it. I was in a throwback mood, so I started listening to old Mya songs. I was immediately taken back to my junior high and high school days, listening to all the songs I randomly dedicated to some scruffy boy at the time lol (looking back, I picked some winners to like man). As I’m listening, I’m hearing some songs I’ve never heard before. I was enjoying them, but not really paying attention to them because honestly, listening to Mya (Mya’s self-titled debut album) as an adult is an experience all on its own. What I didn’t get at 13, I for damn sure get now lol. I’ll forever love that album. SO many great songs. But I say all of this to say, I was paying more attention to what I was listening to now. I took a look at the playlist and realized, Mya had a new ass album drop! My memo was obviously misplaced… it’s cool. Thanks to Spotify, I had the entire K.I.S.S. (Keep It Sexy & Simple) album at my disposal. I quickly fell in love.
Two days later my premium membership expired, and I couldn’t listen to Spotify on my iPhone. I sure as hell bought K.I.S.S. from the iTunes store RIGHT away. No way I’d wait until I got home to listen to it again, nor be restricted to listening to it from my MacBook (I can’t stream on the work computer #fail). I can honestly say K.I.S.S. is the first album I’ve ever listened to and LOVED every song. In my 15+ years or so of actively choosing the music I listen to, I’ve never loved an entire album. I’ve come close, but there’s generally that one song that I ALWAYS skip. Are there songs I love more than others on this album? Of course. But, I can honestly say I can listen to the entire album without skipping anything and be happy. Here’s a quick list of
my favorites the songs for all intents and purposes I “like” instead of love:
Rear View Mirror (feat Sean Paul)
Earthquake (feat Trina)
Break Your Neck
Love Comes, Love Goes
That’s it. Of the 17 tracks, I’m head over heels for 13. I own albums that don’t even have 13 tracks. You do too.
If you ask me, A couple of the songs feel like they should be theme music for a network television series, Lifetime movie, or just your regular old blockbuster film. Since this is my blog, I’m going to pretend you did ask me and give you my rundown on my placements. “K.I.S.S.” could totally be the theme song for a new show about a young woman newly on her own in a new city or a Lifetime movie with a similar plot. This would be the song that plays in the commercial advertising the show though. “Fabulous Life” would be the song to a new reality show about some chicks living duh, a fabulous life. “Break Your Neck” is the song that plays in the movie when one of the protagonists gets a kick ass makeover and steps out on the scene. “Problem & Solution” would play during the break up scene, OR be the song in the trailer that plays as they introduce the plot of the movie. “Evolve” would play as the protagonist(s) walk off into the sunset at the end of a happily ending movie OR as they do the montage scene of them progressing through whatever they’re struggling with through most of the movie. “Somebody Come Get This Bitch” would of course play as they’re passing judgment on the skanky chick in the club. Someone should pay me to do this. As a side note, “Fugitive of Love” I don’t necessarily see as a theme song to anything, but I love the production, arrangement and vocals on this. It was an easy favorite for me.
So there you have it. I love the album and am really glad Mya is back with new and really good music. I’d be amiss if I didn’t say I highly recommend the album and think everyone should own it. Make sure to hit her up on Twitter @MISSMYA and tell her I sent you <3
My convos with one of my besties, Andre, generally turn into pretty decent posts (or at least convos I intend to post about). Some time a few weeks ago, I was explaining to him why I was getting turned off by one of the men I’m dating. Essentially, I felt he was wasting my time because I didn’t think we were ultimately looking for the same thing. Hear me out.
I’m 26. I spent all of high school and college dating to figure out what role I wanted to play in my relationships and what I do, and don’t like in the men I’m involved with. I’ve even spent time (years, really) after college learning the types of characteristics and conditions I would and would NOT tolerate. At this point in the game, I’m not dating to “find myself” or for research purposes. I have a general grasp of who I am. I’m at a stage where I’m set in certain ways, but still young enough to develop into a more mature woman. I’m also not dating to get a feel for “what’s out there”. I don’t think a man will walk into my life and magically make the mysteries of the wold unfurl at my feet. I’m not dating for any of that. At 26 years and 5 months, quite frankly, I’m dating to end up in a long term relationship; I’m looking for companionship.
The issue I was having with the guy I was dating was with the kind of attention he was giving me. I felt like he was giving me just enough to say he’d hit me up, while not actually investing any of his time. This way, when it came time for the “what you doing this weekend” convo, it’s not like he’d appeared out of nowhere. Let me loosely explain. I’d get a text at noon saying “good afternoon” and reply with a “hey wassup”. Then I’d get an “I’m good. How’s your day going?” I’d reply and that’d be it. Around 6pm or so he’d call. We’d banter about the day, nothing significant and about 8 minuets later, that’s it. The communication for the day. Mind you, I’d had about two really kick ass dates with the dude. I just couldn’t shake the feeling that he was just touching base. I didn’t feel like he was actually trying to get to know me. To add to that, the conversation we’d had over diner really just sounded like he was trying to impress me. If I ask you, a 30+ year old man what you like to do, I don’t want to hear “whatever”. -_-
At 26, I know the type of attention I want. I’m not asking you to be my man after our third conversation. However, after we establish initial attraction and chemistry, if you’re not in the space for a potential relationship, don’t waste my time. I’m not dating SIMPLY to have fun and get to know you. Is that part of it? Hell yes. But there’s more to it. I DO want to eventually be in a serious relationship. If you’re just dating to pass the time and to stay relevant in the social world, that’s cool for you, but I’m over the serial dating days. Not only is it a waste of time to me (because of where I am in life, not because I think there’s anything wrong with it), but it’s also a waste of emotion. Why invest so much into getting to know someone that you ultimately have no intention of continuing any form of a relationship with? It’s one thing if you think you can benefit each other professionally or somehow remain friends, but those relationships entail a quite different approach and that can be assessed and addressed early enough to not waste valuable time and or emotion. If we don’t have the same end result in mind, if we’re not looking for the same thing or things in each other, then there’s no need to waste each others time.
Now, the nice part of me feels like, it’s possible that the two of us were looking for the same end result, and his approach was just wrong for me. That maybe I should actually ask him what it is he’s looking for and where he see’s us going. But as always, Ms. Vixin stepped in. She said, “D eff all that. He’s a grown ass man and should have it together by now. If he can’t successfully communicate what he wants outside of me coming to visit him at his place after 10pm with absolutely no reason other than to see him (-_- pass me two times sir. You’re not that damn smooth), then you already know you ain’t with it. Your attitude and disposition aren’t built for the waste of time this is going to be.”
Another thing that pissed me off with him was constantly feeling like he was trying to impress me. Sir, you’re not the first man to spend money on me, nor are you the first to tell me I’m beautiful. Also, you’re not the only one spending money and compliments on me. I’m actually used to getting attention, so this right here? Not new. Again sir, pass me two times. Ultimately with him, I just felt like 70% of what he did was for show so he could eventually bed me. I get it. If I were a guy, I might do the same. But, guess what? I’m not. That shit may have worked on the last chick, but I think you just wasted a couple stacks on this one bruh. In no way do I feel obligated to sleep with you because I’m attracted to you and you spent money on me. Like, chicks still do that? Oh. I’m good on that.
Am I making sense? What are your thoughts?
It’s finally here!!! The long anticipated “If This Pussy Could Talk” video has arrived. I had SO much fun on the set of this video. Between intergalactic fisticuffs being thrown, to hell, intergalactic freakin bugs this video is packed with A LOT!
Ken ALWAYS makes sure to keep the supply of sexy high, but he will also make sure to keep the talent present as well. Revamped Ken Dahl has added color to his usual all black attire! Cleons Clothing Co. designed his jackets and made sure to bring the right pop of color to Ken’s look. Ken’s new look DEFINITELY didn’t stop at color honey. You peep the hair?! OK?! Three snaps for Ron Bellair for making sure to keep Ken’s hair laid like a rejected man’s ego. Finishing off his new look, Ken was sure to add the extra lil flair of makeup. Everyone was sure to have their face beat by our on-set makeup artist Kelly Marie Fraticelli. She was able to express the vibrant color and energy of the video on our faces without making us look like clowns. *Insert round of applause here*. YouTube is full of choreography to this song, but Ken Dahl worked with the amazing Arturo Andre Lyons to head choreography. He and his dancers did a great job of bringing sexy and talent to our screens.
Many of you loyal Ken Dahl fans will be pleased to FINALLY see the face of one of Ken Dahls cohorts — Shaquanamanesha. Yeah. Shaquanamanesha. Lol Nate’ R. Jones did an AMAZING job of bringing the hood ratchetness that we love about Quana to life lol. I know for sure we’ll be seeing more of her in many places. She’s a truly talented young woman.
I’d mentioned in a previous post that I’d discussed Ken’s vision of the video with him before we even had a date to shoot. I was STILL surprised and shocked at all the different directions the video took. Speaking of direction, a lot of credit is due to Mikhael Torich. Besides being a dream to work with, he is professional and truly talented. He and Ken Dahl once again collaborated to produce an amazing work of art. I honestly love working with the both of them.
So click away honey! Find out If This Pussy Could Talk!! Aaaooww!
Ken Dahl also re-released his epic album Tricks of the Trade. Click on the title of the album to get your download. Not only will you love the album, you’ll love this re-released version of it. It contains new tracks from previous Ken Dahl work and is sure to please. And I’m totally not being partial lol. Make sure to swing by Ken Dahl’s Facebook fan page and show him some love by clicking “Like”. He’s sure to keep blessing us with bangers, so I’m sure many of you would love to stay in the know. Enjoy <3
Affectionately known as WILTWIIY (pronounced in my head as wilt-we), “What I’m Listening To While I Ignore You” has been an idea of mine for a TVE section for quite some time. I love music. I sit at my desk at work with one ear bud in and my headset for my phone on the other ear. When I go on break, my music goes with me. Sadly, ear buds don’t deter people from talking to you anymore. There’s no respect. Quite often, I put my buds in even when I’m not listening to anyone just so I can ignore people. When I’m not just being anti-social, though, I’m rockin out. When I discover a new artist or a new album, it’s safe to say I’ll go a week without listening to anything else. I can keep one song on repeat for an entire day and be content. I’m that friend that will call you and begin the convo with how awesome whatever song or artist I’m digging at the time is and go on about it for a smooth 15; with no shame. When I’m passionate about something, I have to share it. So here you have it. As I come across new artists and music, I’ll share my thoughts and reviews with you. Please feel free to tweet, facebook, or email me with suggestions of artists and music. I’m open to everything – honest.